A Nigerian guy has taken to Facebook to share why he won’t date typical Nigerian ladies.“
Most Of You Are Taught That It’s Not Okay To Support Your Partner Financially” – Here’s Why This Guy Won’t Date Typical Nigerian Ladies.
According to him, most of these girls have been taught that it’s not okay to help their partners financially. He wrote:
“The reason I would not date a typical Nigerian girl, it is because most of y’all been taught that it Is okay not to support your partner at all, all you are there for is to give him sex and cook for him..then he provides everything and you don’t do nothing.
He says a relationship is supposed to have the financial, emotional and psychological support from both parties.
If you’re in a relationship with someone it is supposed to be like a partnership where y’all support yourselves financially emotionally and psychologically, but no you just want him to pay for every thing ..when it is valentine you don’t buy nothing for him but you except heaven and earth.
He also says men like to be spoiled too and not just the ladies…
We do appreciate gift too, we like to be treated to a dinner date, we like ice cream too, everyone wants rich man but would not help any get rich. Am not saying spend all your money on a man but the thoughts count.”Source:
In case you haven’t heard, Scott Disick and Sofia Richie are reportedly dating — and people are very upset with the rumored relationship. The media circus surrounding their “relationship announcement,” which amounts to a few couple-y Instagram stories and healthy dose of PDA in Miami, has been whirling given our culture’s obsession with chastising young women who date older men. But the irony here is that the 15 year age difference between Scott and Sofia is nearly the exact same gap as Kourtney Kardashian and her new boyfriend Younes Bendjima, who are 14 years apart and started seeing each other in May.
With a 15-year age gap, Sofia and Scott’s budding relationship seems, sadly, ripe for judgement, as seen on Sofia’s Instagram account, where people who do not know her personally (or the context of her relationship with Scott) have decided express their disgust. On Sofia’s most recent Instagram, a plethora of snake emojis, often associated with deviance and distaste, can be seen in the comments, which also escalate into more direct harassment, with notes like “HOMEWRECKER,” “STOP WITH SCOTT,” “You realize Scott is using you right? He’s way older with 3 kids,” and “Girl you think you grown.” But on Younes’ Instagram, the comment section looks a little different. He’s met with praise and positive affirmations, including comments like “Kourtney is one lucky woman,” “Hottie,” and “Gosh he is nice looking go Kourt.” So, why then is Sofia being labeled the homewrecker, when her “relationship” with Scott only just materialized publicly this month? Scott and Kourtney have been broken up since 2015. It’s been two years people — I think it’s time to stop calling anyone a homewrecker.
Evidence of people’s anger over Scott and Sofia can also be seen Twitter, whereas the public is doing the exact opposite to Younes and Kourtney. In fact, they’re demanding MORE images of the couple together, not less Refinery29 reports.
The double-standard here is infuriating and so blatantly obvious. Yes, a 15 year age difference is quite large when you’re dealing with a 19-year-old. But is this the first time something like this has happened? No. And would people be as vicious if the gender roles were reversed? Definitely not. Britney Spears is dating a 23-year-old, Heidi Klum was recently dating someone 13 years her junior, and lest we forget the 29-year age gap between Madonna and ex-flame Jesus Luz.
Safe to say, Sofia and Scott won’t be the first, or the last, couple with a glaring age gap, so please, let’s give it a rest and put this double-standard to bed.
Off and on the news Nollywood actress and mother of one Tonto Dikeh has been in recent times. Being a single mom, having separated from her ex husband Olakunle Churchill she goes through life everyday trying her best to be happy with her son and all around her.
It can be recalled that Tonto granted an interview to journalist Azuka Ogujiuba on her show ”Hot topics” when she was being domestically abused in her marriage
Azuka has now come out to say she has video evidence to back up her claims, which she arrived at after meeting with both Tonto and her ex-husband at different times, stating that Tonto lied about been beaten by Olakunle Churchill.
Tonto dikeh who could not bear this new development clapped back at the eering journalist in ways she could never have imagined, to keep her at bay next time she had something unkind to say. See her post.
“Firstly Azuka You lured me into this interview. You used someone I respect a lot to convince me to talk about the marriage incidences. I finally succumbed to it because I felt that my story would help other women who faced the same issue of domestic violence. It was never orchestrated as u say. – Secondly, One of your staff suggested that I cover the scar on my leg. I told you that i was okay with the scar showing because it came as a result of domestic violence. – Furthermore, Azuka I told you several times about my faults in the whole incidence. I never hid any of it. I told you I broke things in his house as a response to the violence I faced. So why would you try and use that against me as if I did not openly admit and repent about it. As a matter of fact I have attached the text messages between us! Try and deny!
– Azuka you said yourself that Churchill offered you money to manipulate everything I said. Your assistant also admitted that Churchill offered her a large sum of money to manipulate the whole thing. You mentioned this in front of every body there! Your staff, your camera men, the make up staff, my team members and my brother. Don’t dare deny this! I have several KEY people who where present there. – Azuka you said that Churchill showed you a video of me destroying things. Azuka please release that video! Release everything that was captured on that cctv camera from the beginning of the fight to the end of it without a second or minute missing! Please do this and vindicate your artist since we know now that you manage him.
Tonto-Dike – Azuka-Ogujiuba
– Azuka how dare you even say I lied! Where you there!? Where you present in any of the incidences that occurred!? Did you ever speak to any of my family that naturally would have taken sides with me just as his took sides with him. – When you called me for a second interview to counter his own interview what did I tell you? I said NO. That this is not a fight I want to entertain most especially because of my son. – Isn’t it funny that your boyfriend you sent to pick me from the airport is now flying around the country with Churchill! Coincidence? – You said that you went to Ghana for an event and decided to do a bit of You said that you went to Ghana for an event and decided to do a bit of investigative journalism? You lie. Azuka you where paid to go to Ghana!! Please don’t lie! Now if u where paid to go to Ghana, would common sense not tell you that the sources where also manipulated for your pleasure. – You said that Churchill refused an interview with you because he didn’t trust u then you later changed your story that Churchill and his people where the ones calling and begging you for an interview!! – You said I was out to destroy his image abi?!! Yet when you wanted me to say horrible things about him I told you that I wasn’t here for that. You asked me to tell you about his father not being Obasanjo! If I was truly out to destroy him I would have mentioned long long ago that his father was once a Gardener for Obasanjo who later became a preacher. (There you go)
– Furthermore, I was never once arrested! The domestic violence led to the neighbours calling the police! We where both taken down and both wrote our statement and both reported to the station every single day for three days. I went to my hotel to sleep every night until Churchill convinced me to drop the case. So I was amazed when I saw the video of the police lying against me. – Azuka The same Ghana that you went to is the same Ghana that my team and I visited with a reputable lawyer and confirmed my story! – Azuka I truely hope that 3 million has set a good foundation for your children. It is women like you that make this world a terrible place. I once said that you where bribed a few months a go as a reply to a fan but my management went on my page to apologise in order to do damage control for you because of relationship one you obviously have no respect for. – Azuka I put it to you. You where successfully bribed! That is why you are going on TV talking all this. Azuka you told people I was on drugs! How dare you. Which reasonable man will suspect someone on drugs breastfeeding his child and would not take the child to the hospital for a check. – Azuka I offered to fly you to Abuja to take me to any hospital so we could do a test. You bluntly refused and told me to please ignore all of this! – Azuka I Azuka I could go on and on and on but here are a few things I wanted to say to you. Stay off my case and work on your journalism. You do not know the things I hide about your artist Churchill solely because of my son. Do no push me to reveal them. Stay away from me – After 7 domestic violence incidences and miscarriages caused by domestic violence I curse you today! You will search for the same peace,wealth,love and happiness that you are trying to take away from me. Until I forgive you, you will not find. My God never sleeps.”
Top Dog: Bishop David Oyedepo of Winners Chapel leads the way with a staggering $150million according to Forbes
When a guesthouse belonging to one of Nigeria’s leading Christian pastors collapsed last month, killing 115 mostly South African pilgrims, attention focused on the multimillion-dollar “megachurches” that form a huge, untaxed sector of Africa’s top economy.
Hundreds of millions of dollars change hands each year in these popular Pentecostal houses of worship, which are modelled on their counterparts in the United States.
Some of the churches can hold more than 200,000 worshippers and, with their attendant business empires, they constitute a significant section of the economy, employing tens of thousands of people and raking in tourist dollars, as well as exporting Christianity globally.
But exactly how much of Nigeria’s $510 billion GDP they make up is difficult to assess, since the churches are, like the oil sector in Africa’s top energy producer, largely opaque entities.
“They don’t submit accounts to anybody,” says Bismarck Rewane, economist and CEO of Lagos consultancy Financial Derivatives. “At least six church leaders have private jets, so they have money. How much? No one really knows.”
When Nigeria recalculated its GDP in March, its economy became Africa’s biggest, as previously poorly captured sectors such as mobile phones, e-commerce and its prolific “Nollywood” entertainment industry were specifically included in estimates.
There was no such separate listing for the “megachurches”, whose main source of income is “tithe”, the 10 percent or so of their income that followers are asked to contribute.
As the churches have charity status, they have no obligation to open their books, and certainly don’t have to fill in tax returns — an exemption that is increasingly controversial in Nigeria, where poverty remains pervasive despite the oil riches.
The pastors argue their charity work should exempt them.
“We use the income of the church to build schools, we use the income of the church to serve the needs of the poor,” David Oyedepo, bishop of the popular Winners Chapel, told Reuters in an interview. “These are non-profit organisations.”
PASTORS ON FORBES LIST
Nonetheless, the surging popularity of the megachurches among the Christians who make up half of Nigeria’s 170 million population has propelled their preachers into the ranks of the richest people in Africa.
In 2011, Forbes magazine estimated the fortunes of Nigeria’s five richest pastors. Oyedepo topped the list, with an estimated net worth of $150 million.
He was followed by “Pastor Chris” Oyakhilome of Believers’ LoveWorld Incorporated, also known as the Christ Embassy and popular with executives and politicians, on $30 million to $50 million.
TB Joshua, pastor of the Synagogue Church of All Nations, at the centre of the recent diplomatic storm over the deaths in its guesthouse, was thought to have $10 million to $15 million.
The National Bureau of Statistics (NBS) declined to comment on how churches fit into their GDP figures, but a source there said they were included as “non-profit”, which falls under “other services” in the latest figures. In 2013, the category contributed 2.5 percent of GDP, the same as the financial sector.
A former banker at Nigeria’s United Bank for Africa , who declined to be named, recalled being approached five years ago by a church that was bringing in $5 million a week from contributions at home or abroad.
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“They wanted to make some pretty big investments: real estate, shares,” he said. “They wanted to issue a bond to borrow, and then use the weekly flows to pay the coupon.”
In the end, he said, the bank turned down the proposal on ethical grounds.
Yet Nigerian churches do often invest large amounts of their congregations’ money in shares and property, at home and abroad, he and another banking source said.
One pastor bought 3 billion naira ($18 million) worth of shares in the defunct Finbank, which later merged with FCMB , after it was rescued in a bail-out in 2009, a fund manager who handled the deal told Reuters. The pastor used a nominee trust account to keep his name off the books.
In 2011, Oyakhilome was investigated by the Economic and Financial Crimes Commission (EFCC) and charged with laundering $35 million of contributions to his church in foreign bank accounts. He denied all wrongdoing and the case was dismissed for lack of evidence.
Oyakhilome was not available for comment and Joshua’s media team declined a request for an interview with him.
MIDAS TOUCH
Oyedepo’s headquarters, “Canaanland”, is a 10,500-acre (4250-hectare) campus in Ota, outside the commercial capital Lagos. It comprises a university, two halls of accommodation, restaurants and a church seating 50,000 people, with a total overflow capacity of five times that.
“You can see that everything this man touches turns to gold,” Nigerian Agriculture Minister Akinwumi Adesina said in a speech at a reception for Oyedepo’s 60th birthday at Canaanland last month.
“May the grace of God abide with you,” he added, to a rapturous “Amen!” from the guests in a marquee.
Other dignitaries present included twice-president Olusegun Obasanjo and former military ruler Yakubu Gowon. A choir sang gospel songs as the guests cut an elaborate six-tiered cake and popped fizzy grape juice out of champagne bottles in golden wrapping — alcohol is banned in Canaanland.
The next day, he delivered four Sunday services in a row to tens of thousands of cheering followers, his white-suited figure projected onto large flat-screen televisions all around.
“From today, no evil spirit, no demon will survive the Almighty!” he shouted, and the crowd roared “Amen!”.
A spokesman said the church has 5,000 branches across Nigeria, and 1,000 more in 63 other countries across five continents. But Oyedepo’s empire also includes two fee-paying universities that he built from scratch, a publishing house for Christian self-help books, and an elite high school.
Other pastors have similarly diversified ways of getting the Gospel of Christian salvation out.
Oyakhilome owns magazines, newspapers and 24-hour TV station, and Joshua draws miracle-seekers from all over the world with claims that the holy water he has blessed cures otherwise incurable ailments such as HIV/AIDS.
Before Joshua built his 10,000-seat headquarters at Ikotun-Egbe in outer Lagos, the area was part swamp, part abandoned industrial estate.
Now, it is a boom town with shops, hotels, eateries and bars catering largely to the travellers who come not only from West Africa but also from all corners of the globe to hear his sermons. Joshua also runs a TV station.
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“BLESSED BY THE LORD”
Guests entering Oyedepo’s birthday marquee in Canaanland would have seen a picture of the poor household in southwest Nigeria where he grew up, testament to a rags-to-riches story that many Nigerians would love to emulate.
Like U.S. televangelists, Winners Chapel preaches the “prosperity gospel” that faith in Jesus Christ lifts people out of poverty, and that message partly explains the explosion of the Pentecostal movement in sub-Saharan Africa, where misfortune and poverty are often seen as having supernatural causes.
“We see giving as the only way to be blessed. Blessing other people is a way of keeping the blessings flowing,” said Oyedepo, whose blessings include a Gulfstream V jet and several BMWs.
Giving to support the church and its work is something the faithful are encouraged to do, a Christian tradition that was a pillar of the Roman Catholic church in medieval Europe, just as it has been a major money-spinner for U.S. televangelists.
Aneke Chika, a business analyst in an oil services company, told Reuters on the steps of Oyedepo’s church that she set aside 20,000 naira of her 200,000 naira ($1,218) salary every month.
Asked about Forbes’ estimate of his fortune, Oyedepo told Reuters: “For me, to have fortune means someone who has what he needs at any point in time. I don’t see myself as having $150 million stacked up somewhere. Whatever way they found their figures, I am only able to say I am blessed by the Lord.”
He said he could not estimate the church’s total revenues or expenditure on items such as salaries because the various departments, including education, were too diverse.
The enterprises on the Canaanland campus, from the shops selling cold sodas and bread, to a woman boiling instant noodles and eggs for breakfast in a lodge, to pop-up book stalls hawking Oyedepo’s prolific literary output, are owned by the church’s estate, which employs their staff on its payroll, workers at all the outlets told Reuters.
Winners Chapel’s Corporate Affairs department said the church employed more than 18,000 people in Nigeria alone.
Oyedepo says the wealth the church gathers is invested in expanding it, and that if he did not use a private jet, he would be unable to oversee its many foreign operations and still return to Ota every week in time for Sunday’s worship.
Britain’s Charity Commission says it is reviewing potential conflicts of interest in his finances, and last month the Home Office (interior ministry) barred him from Britain, though it declined to say why.
Oyedepo said he knew nothing of the commission’s review, nor had the Home Office explained to him why he was barred.
A national conference to debate Nigeria’s constitution this year proposed that the megachurches should be taxed.
But with an election coming up in February, it is debatable whether President Goodluck Jonathan, who is close to several megapastors, would risk upsetting these influential men and their hefty congregations with a fat tax bill.
“There is no single government input on this premises,” Oyedepo told Reuters in the interview. “We supply our water, we make our roads, then you … say: ‘Let’s tax them’. For what?”
A popular online medium has revealed how Apostle John Suleiman’s love for ladies with big butts landed him in trouble.
Despite several denials by the controversial Nigerian preacher and founder of Omega Fire Ministries, Sahara Reporters reports that Apostle Suleiman bought a Mercedes-Benz 450 GL for big butt Nollywood actress Daniella Okeke
According to the medium, Johnson Suleiman gave a $76,000 brand-new Mercedes-Benz 450 GL to Nollywood star Daniella Okeke in 2016, an official Lagos State website shows.
Ms. Okeke was previously named by Stephanie Otobo, Apostle Suleman’s estranged lover, as being one of the other women in his life. For her part, the actress in 2016 proudly displayed the Mercedes-Benz SUV GL 450 on her Instagram page in front of a brand-new house where she parked it.
After her name was revealed by Ms. Otobo at a press conference covered extensively by Saharareporters, some Nigerians invaded Ms. Okeke’s Instagram questioning the source of her wealth given that she has not featured in any prominent movies in recent years.
The more inquisitive among them took advantage of a new website for vehicle registration in Lagos State which unveils the ownership of any vehicles by its number due to a bug on the webpage, and discovered that one of Ms. Okeke’s most prized possessions, the posh Mercedes-Benz car, is registered to “Apostle Suleiman Johnson.”
This discovery is the second window into the pastor’s private life following the one opened by Ms. Otobo, but he has vigorously denied the amorous relationship she claims to have had with him. Last week, Ms. Otobo was arrested and detained by Apostle Suleiman, who procured some federal police officers to detain the woman. She was behind bars for a few nights.
Ms. Otobo had insisted that Apostle Suleman impregnated her following sex romps in Italy, New York and Nigeria. The pastor denied the allegations and threatened to sue SaharaReporters for reporting the story.
On Thursday, he also threatened Festus Keyamo, whose law office in Lagos is representing Ms. Otobo, demanding an apology and the payment to him of N1bn for blackmail and injury.
In a rebuttal on Friday, the law office denied that Mr. Keyamo, its Head of Chambers, was actively involved in the matter, as he has been in Abuja. It described the pastor’s allegations of a conspiracy against him as pathetic, ludicrous and a nonsensical smokescreen. Among others, the chambers revealed that the pastor paid millions into Ms. Otobo’s account and that it has pictures of him exposing his private parts, evidence of which it said would emerge in court.
It also stated that other victims of the pastor have started to come forward to tell their stories, armed with proof.
Seven alleged members of the dreaded Badoo cult who have been causing unrest in the Ikorodu area of Lagos State were on Friday brought before an Ebute Meta Magistrates’ Court.
The accused, Afolabi Kessington (25), Ismaila Shaibu (36), Mutiu Nurudeen (26), Ibrahim Bello (25), Lukman Mohammed (35), Gift Itafa (50) and Sheriff Adewunmi (23).
The accused faced a four-count charge bordering on conspiracy and belonging to an unlawful society. They, however, pleaded innocent of the charges.
The Prosecutor, ASP Fidelis Dike, said that the accused committed the offences between July 3 and July 5 at Powerline, Agbala area of Ikorodu and also at Irawo Estate, Owode-Onirin in Lagos.
He said that the accused, who are members of the Badoo cult, had conspired and gathered in the above mentioned areas to have their meeting, which was deemed illegal.
The offences, according to the prosecutor, contravened Section 42(a) of the Criminal Law of Lagos State, 2015.
The Magistrate, Mrs Kofo Ariyo, admitted each of the accused to bail in the sum of N200,000 with two sureties in like sum, one of whom must be a blood relation.
The case has been adjourned until Aug. 9, for mention.
Aboutthatcurvylife.com on recently held the first edition of its “Fashion Day Out” event, in collaboration with Ma’ Bello Clothier at Grey Velvet Stores, Lekki.
ATCL held the outing for a select few of its followers to connect curvy fashion lovers with plus size clothing designers; Ma’Bello Clothiers being the first in what is to be a monthly series. Osa Aisien of Ma’Bello Clothiers held a short question and answer session with the women before gifting each of the ladies a dress from her new collection.
The afternoon was filled with lots of laughs, nibbles, photo ops and women swapping tales of their experiences with fashion as curvy women.
The atmosphere was one of solidarity, sisterhood and empowerment as each curvy woman walked out with her newly acquired outfit to the cheers of the other women and above all gratitude to Aboutthatcurvylife for the fantastic opportunity to meet and mingle with others.
Founded by Latasha Ngwube, ATCL is Africa’s premier online destination and subculture conceived with the aim of inspiring and supporting the plus size community.
Check out some photos from the event below:
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